The toddler defiance phase

The defiance phase is a normal stage of development in which a child learns to use their own will. A calm adult and clear boundaries help the child deal with their emotions.

You will need

• Patience
• A clear daily rhythm
• Rules agreed between the adults in the family

Steps

1. Understand the stage

   Defiance is a sign of your child's development, not of bad parenting.

2. Stay calm

3. Name the feelings

4. Offer choices

5. Hold the boundaries

6. Anticipate situations

7. Comfort after a tantrum

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